Dating is both an easy and a sophisticated undertaking.
It can be something to look forward to as well an endeavor that can be equally
dreadful. But I digress. One of the most common issues surrounding dating these
days is that which pertains to dating party girls. Yes many men have found
themselves in compromising situations more so after they have picked up their
spouse at the local pub, a bar or in a club. It is usually the most convenient
place for most guys to look for companionship but do their choices pay off in
the long run?
Most men want
someone to talk to, to have sex with, to marry and to sire kids with. But with
all those expectations, they must understand that the type of woman who can
fulfill those dreams will never be at the club. On the contrary, women who are
there are in pursuit of short-lived pleasures and are usually thrill seeking.
As such, I highly discourage picking up women in such places if at all you are
dreaming of starting a family. However, if you are there looking for thrills,
one-night-stands, quickies and the likes, be my guest. Just remember to wear
protection if you value your life.
Before we list the reasons not to date a party animal,
their main characteristics include:
They go to night parties
They like going to clubs
They drink and/or smoke and use other drugs
Without much else to say, here are the reasons why I
personally cannot marry a party girl:
1. They cannot commit.
Non-committal is engraved in their DNA. Party girls are
sexy, fun, and love to experiment hence they fear losing out or left out of
social encounters. As such, they’ll tend to want relationships that are “open”.
This leaves you to deal with the fact that you cannot have an exclusive relationship.
She likes the idea of sleeping with other men besides you so as to stay updated
and not miss out. As you know, such an arrangement is extremely dangerous as
you will be exposed to risks such as STDs, raising another man’s child or even
tainting your image in the society.
2. They will have more leverage in the relationship.
Party animals have men who are at their disposal all
the time. Hence they can leave you if they decide you are boring or they stop
deeming you as superior to their alternative boyfriends. They have standby
boyfriends who can provide what you do just like a generator does when
electricity goes off. In this scenario, you lose your power and she has all the
cards, hence calling all the shots and there is nothing much you can do. You will
end up chasing her, glorifying her, worshipping her just trying to please her.
You will fear losing her and once she smells that she is better than you, you
are done.
3. You will suffer from emotional sickness, I call it
emotional cancer
Once you are the one making all the efforts to try and
keep the relationship going, you will always find yourself monitoring her
actions. And you will do that frequently in the quest to keep tabs on her so
that to prevent her from straying. Doing this will not only guarantee failure,
it will also put you through emotional torment that can be second to none. Once you
catch her cheating, because eventually she will, you will suffer a thousand
folds. Believe you me the roller coaster of emotional pain will cripple you psychologically
and financially. You will be derailed from focusing on constructive things such
as career and business. Instead, you will find yourself chasing her, crying,
pleading to her, begging and blaming yourself. Your life will purely entail
swimming an ocean of tears. Do you want to spend your life doing this?
4. She will not support you
A woman should be your companion. She is supposed to be
your partner in all areas. But sadly, a party girl will have little to zero
tolerance to difficult situations that you may encounter and need her. Her
priorities in life lack a place to house instability. She only wants to feel
good, she demands attention and she thrives when men drool over her praising
her beauty. In other words, a party girl is a shallow girl. She is incapable of
being the pillar at home and hence you cannot depend on her. She cannot be
trusted because her attention is more captured by the pleasures of the flesh
than the most important aspects of life such as life, family or spiritual
well-being. You won’t enjoy the marriage life.
Bottom
Line
Most women are not party animals. Most girls don’t go
to a girl’s night out, they don’t go clubbing on Friday night, and definitely
do not participate in arranged orgies at parties. They stay at home enjoying a Netflix
series, cooking, reading magazines and chatting with their girlfriends. Those are
the types of women you should be eying to marry. They are not found in clubs, rather,
at the grocery shop, at the fan park or even at the bookstore. They are the
kind who will give you love, they will give you companionship, they’ll give you
kids, they’ll give you a family, and more importantly, they’ll give you a peace
of mind.
