There is always someone better out there, regardless of the quality of person we currently have.
In this life that we live,
there is always something better, superior, more beautiful, more interesting,
and more exciting. It doesn’t matter what it is, whether it is a person, a car,
a pet, a house, or anything. As regards a person, this is what touches many,
since cars and houses may become unattainable due to our financial constraints.
We cannot, therefore, aspire to compete beyond our financial muscles and hence
even though we envy Bill Gates, et al. we are forced to accept the cars we
drive and the homes we live in.
As per people, everyone can
want and can get someone better. People cannot be bought, save for the few gold
diggers here and there. The rest can only be wooed, persuaded, manipulated, swayed,
chased, or blackmailed into becoming our own. Consequently, it becomes easier
to get who we want, depending on the circumstances and our conniving prowess. I
have been able to prove this fact, bearing in mind when I get out there; I always
meet a more beautiful, charming, or interesting woman than the ones I currently
know.
Since I began going out, or
meeting other people, I have realized that in every place I go, there must be a
special person. In almost all the scenarios, there is always this feeling that
manifests which compels me to go into the “chase-mode”. Here, I channel all my
energy transforming it into confidence, an aspect that I need in order to lure
the target. I have done this and throughout my escapades, I have established
that my success rate is ever over 80%.
Now, here is the thing. It
doesn’t matter who you have, there is always someone better-looking, more
ideal, and more appealing. It is never the question of having the most
beautiful person. Someone better will always materialize from the horizon. This
happens particularly when one has preying eyes and is willing to meet someone
new. It happens consciously and unconsciously. And the reason is simple –anyone
new is better.
It is the newness of a person
that excites us. The possibilities that we wonder can happen if we mingle with
this person. The untapped potential of someone new cultivates our eagerness to
get to know them. We construct a positive image about the new person in our
minds. We idealize them and daydream how they could perfect our lives. We
perceive the new person as the missing jigsaw that will complete us and satisfy
our social needs.
When we meet this new person,
we fail to rationalize the whole context. We do not consider all the
probabilities that are imminent concerning the person. We only choose the good
things that we want to associate them with. We do not want to spoil the moment,
since we deem it faultless. We think, of course wrongly, that we have found The OneTM. We fail to
interrogate ourselves whether at this vulnerable time we are logical. We become
subjective as we are carried away with volatile emotions that we are oblivious
are temporary.
We do not look at the dark side of our new person. We do not take a keen interest of objectively cross-examining the whole situation. The person could be a serial killer, a psycho, or even the devil himself! Demonizing a person is way outside our imagination. We see them as the angel we have always wanted to meet. We exchange contacts and boom, from there on we initiate a relationship.
Fast-forward after we have
formed bonds with the new person we begin to look for someone better. We no
longer find the person as fascinating as they were when we first laid our eyes
on them. We become irritated with the way they do things, even the simplest of
things such as breathing! Even the cutest thing we liked at first becomes
gross. Our perceptions completely take a u-turn as we get used to the person.
The new person is now an old person, someone that we have gotten used to. We
begin finding a lot of negative attributes in them, and the imperfections in
them are magnified. We cast them away into the dustbin and embark on a mission
of replacing them.
We now realize we were blinded
by the newness of the person. We could not even eat because our minds had been
clouded by the person. At first-sight, we behaved irrationally and elevated our
stupidity to a whole new level. We cannot even stomach the idea that the person
made us sleepless at night. We question our intelligence on how on earth we
could be talking on the phone till 3.00 a.m despite the fact that we were to
report to work at 8.00 a.m.
These events remind us of how
it is necessary to take a step back when we meet a new person that we think
will be amazing, perfect, ideal, or the best we can have. A new person can be
just ideal due to their rawness and cosmetic behaviors. Bearing in mind that
beauty fades, a new person should not be adored, immortalized, and cherished
before they prove their worth. After all, there is always someone better out
there.
Photo: Brad Pitt with Jennifer Aniston in September 2000.
Brad Pitt married celebrated 'FRIENDS' actress Jeniffer Aniston in 2000. They were an iconic couple admired and envied by many. Brad had found The One and she Prince Charming. The marriage didn't last though, as Brad met someone better, Angelina Jolie.
Photo: Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt during the filming of Mr & Mrs Smith
A blockbuster movie, Mr & Mrs Smith charmed the imagination of every viewer. It depicted a power couple and soon afterward Pitt couldn't help but succumb to the powerful chemistry he developed on set with his co-star. They exchanged vows in a quiet wedding in France, 2014. For Brad, angelina was the queen of his heart. She was the girl He was always Searching for. Brad thought he had striked gold, only to realize that it wasn't. She was just a girl like any other. His marriage came crushing badly and even ended in animosity and now they can't even finalize a divorce. He has since gotten back with Jeniffer and there are rumours they are moving in together. Moral of the story: New people appeal to us as being superior, more beautiful, and better. News Flash: They aren't. Think about it.
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