MEN, PLEASE DON'T DATE TEENAGERS

            I quit dating raw teenagers. Yes, some teenagers are untouched, naïve, adventurous, and inexperienced. This fact does not warrant or substantiate why we should be dating them. I do not advocate for people who date extremely younger women. The reason is simple. You are worlds apart. You want her to be your last woman, yet you forget that for her, you are her first. Her first means she has to be seriously heartbroken in her life before she finally settles. She has to explore the dating scene but you are busy interfering with her lifecycle with your whims to wife her. You want a young woman because her beauty, purity, and naivety fascinate you. You know you shouldn’t be handling these sorts of women yet you defy the laws of nature. She dates you because she wants your money, your stability, and the financial cushion that you offer. But you forget that it is temporarily, as once a younger version of you crops up in her world, you will be erased and replaced. You become the reacher in the relationship while she comfortably becomes the settler.

            Later on, you become disgusted by some behaviors she exhibits in your entire relationship. She wants frequent texting, while you don’t. She can’t pick calls anytime you want to talk to her; instead you have to wait for her signal. Probably she fears her mum or dad, she is embarrassed to talk to you because she is with her friends, or she is with her young boyfriend – you get the point. She is indecisive, hot and cold. Her erratic mood swings and her unpredictability severely agonize you. You develop the uncertainty that you may lose her. She fancies phone conversations rather than face-to-face communication. In other words, the relationship is more imaginary than real.

            She is still a student. As such, she still fancies her classmates or people in the same category in her life. She still wants to date the coolest kid in school. She still cares about her prom dress and being asked out more than what she will score in her final examination. She still fancies that rich neighborhood kid who wants to be a musician. She adores people who call and text her every single minute and is excessively obsessed with unreal connections. She eludes and evades sex and real dates. She relentlessly flakes every time you make arrangements. She associates with men who worship her and are submissive to her. She behaves timidly towards outcome independent men like you who are the real Alphas in a world full of beta males.

            You are past that. You did that shit ten years ago. You were there admiring television actresses and adoring that life that is unreal. You texted thousand of text messages to girls, both beautiful and otherwise. You did that because it was a stage. You had to kiss through the phone. You can’t now. You need real things. You want to explore the tangible world. You no longer crave for dreamy things.

            You want her to pick the call when you call. You can’t text everyday without action. You cannot afford to have long-distance relationships. You can’t risk waiting for that girl to finish her studies only to flake on you and turn you down. That emotional, time, and financial resource-wastage is unmerited, unwarranted, uncalled for, and more so barbaric. You can’t drain your life like that like a piece of shit. You are more valuable than that.

            Ironically, there is no such thing as a soul mate. You cannot imagine or argue that the high school girl you met is destined for you. No one is. It is a matter of trial and error. There are over 3billion women in the world and one woman cannot determine your happiness. No one is special, there is no that girl who is not like the rest, there is no “The One”. There are just special women out there, albeit millions with qualities you are looking for.

            So walk away. Deal with real things. You can’t be a stepping stone for anyone. You can’t be used by these inexperienced women to get into the real world. Get a real woman. Get a woman who is unconditionally available when you need her. No more dreams, no more wishes, no more waiting, no more being patient. There is no such thing as work-in-progress among humans. That term is only applicable in business. You cannot work for projects.

            You’ve got to get a ready-made woman. A finished-product. They are plenty. You cannot aimlessly spend time with people who are a liability. Time is not on your side. You cannot do the same thing and expect different results. You will fail, spectacularly. You can’t guess nor risk. You have to do the right things, be happy and avoid people or things that make you sad.

            However beautiful, sexy, light, tall, busty, or feminine a woman is, if they are not contributing to your happiness, they are a liability. They have to be dropped. You must do make with women who are of value. Value here equates to availability, meeting emotional and other desires of companionship. There is no room for time wasters, there is no room for flakes, there is no room for teenagers. Teenagers who are allowed are those mature who have already had real relationships.

            Living in the future is a mistake. There is no tomorrow. The trick is that we are living today. There are no second chances in life. We cannot rewind our lives and correct our mistakes. Life is a movie with no sequel. Every second matters, every woman matters. Those who cannot be of use are to be discarded. There are no exceptions.  

                  Doug Anthony Hutchison, 51, Married a 16-Year-Old Country Singer in 2011

Hutchison, the LOST actor, tied the knot with his teenage sweetheart probably after she swept him off his feet while he was an acting teacher and she was his student. He saw a raw, unexploited, hot blonde who was not ''tampered with'' as compared to other older women he had prevously married and divorced. However, his expectations were curtailed when the teenager, Courtney, divorced him at 19 years, just 2 and half years after their wedding. She was already 'having fun' with housemates in the Celebrity Big Brother in the UK. What followed was drama as the relationship was marred with break-ups and make-ups. It never ended well for Hutchison. The moral of the story, don't date teenagers. Age is not just a number.