When a relationship is over, you will know. You no longer
crave for the person, you don’t miss them and you don’t look forward to hearing
from them. Instead, you want them gone and even though you pretend to wanting
them extend their stay, you pray to God to make them go. You think of all the
negative things about them. You keep on reflecting on cheating incidences,
lies, disappointments and even all the trivial mistakes. They remain
unattractive in your mind and when this happens lust is gone. The reality is
that you never loved them as it was just a form of infatuation, fantasy and a
sense of owning someone, a sense of being somebody’s girlfriend/boyfriend. The
thing is that modern relationships are based on physical attractions, idealism
and theoretical imaginations. As soon as the person you are dating show their
real image, character and personality, believe me you, you will flee.
To illustrate how feeble modern relationships are, let me
take you through a typical example. Suppose you went to a party of friends
where you mingle with members of the opposite sex, and then boom, you meet
him/her there. You meet them not because it was fate nor a coincidence but
simply because your darting eyes were so prying that you forced yourself to
identify a potential mate. She is shining with beauty, her make-up blinds you
automatically and her miniskirt shuts down your sense of judgment. In this
scenario, I cannot blame you because if at that time you took alcohol, you can
be sure that the woman will be more angelic, dazzling and even more your
courage will be significantly magnified which is really an advantage to you.
Afterwards,
you get her number and off you depart a very happy man now that you have a
woman to woe, entice and make her your wife or girlfriend. Interestingly,
single people are rare to find and so the woman will most likely be tied up in
a sort of relationship. Depending on her point of view, if she is into you, you
will know even without trying much. All you have to do is log in to your
Whatsapp or Facebook and send her a text message booking a date. Now, this is
where it gets interesting. She will agree or turn down your offer based on her
current relationship and what you seem to be offering to bring on her table.
Women are programmed in such a way that they are future oriented and hence they
scrutinize an opportunity using the cost-benefit analysis mechanism. Yes they
are!
If you happen to be hunky, fun and broke you will stand a
chance. If you are older, ugly and rich you stand a chance too! If you have
none of those characteristics you have no chance unless you have a very bright
future or the woman is quite desperate. Luckily for you, you possess one of the
qualifications and so you succeed on taking her out. Eventually, you date her,
and remember you have not even befriended her before so your relationship is
rooted on a very weak surface. You are dating her solely because she caught
your eye and her smile seems to be sticking in your mind forever. It wont. She
is dating you because you are beneficial in some way and so she thinks the
situation will remain unchanged. It wont.
Even in a marriage that has very strong foundations of
love, trust and understanding, there comes a time when boredom sets in.
Therefore, a relationship is no match and even clocking two years is not easy.
To begin with, you become familiar with your spouse. Her beauty fades and
there, you have nothing else to love in her. She becomes an emotional liability
and you start to see her as an hindrance to you meeting up another person. Sex
becomes routine and since you rarely knew nothing of her personality, you begin
to notice that you will never love her character. She also begins to see
someone else or continues with what she had. There, it is over.
